Why Do We Need To Promote Positive Self-Esteem In Our Children?

“Children need to feel capable before they are really capable”; I am talking about positive self-esteem in our children that would help them be successful in most aspects of their life like work, relationships and towards others. Self esteem is the value we place on ourselves; the way we perceive our value to the world and those around us.  This important aspect affects almost all parts of our life; this makes a strong case to promote positive self-esteem in our children.

Here are a few reasons why children should have a positive self-esteem:

• A child with a positive self esteem is not clingy; he/she is capable of acting on their own and show a lot of independence and confidence. This is born from the fact that these children are aware of their personal strengths and weaknesses and quite sure of themselves. It is also significant to find that they have a sense of self direction that children with a low self-esteem lack; these children are dependent, clingy and are not able to start new things for fear of taking risks.  

• I would prefer a child that assumes responsibility for his/her actions and for ones mistakes. This is very significant especially when one turns an adult and has to take responsibility for all one does; being able to accept ones mistakes and those of others and forgive them makes for a mature adult. In contrast, I would definitely think it was best to promote positive self-esteem in a child that blames others for the mistakes he/she made and fear taking action.

• Positive self-esteem is all about not only taking responsibility for ones faults and mistakes, but also taking pride in ones achievements; children with positive self-esteem take pride in what they are and place a sense of value on themselves and their achievements, that children with low or poor self-esteem do not. It is sad that such children do not know how to tackle achievements or failure and experience no pride even in their achievements.

• “Try, try, try again; till at last you will succeed”, applies to those children with positive self-esteem; these children are not scared to make mistakes and take pride to learn from their mistakes. They do not lose their optimism after every mistake that they make and only emerge out stronger learning from their mistakes. In contrast a child with a low self-esteem always has a fear of being ridiculed for ones failure, is unsure of how to handle successes and appears lazy and withdrawn.

• I would love to nurture a child to tolerate frustration and stress and also handle positive and negative emotions in an impartial way; this is all about positive parenting nurturing a positive self-esteem. This attitude is very important in today’s world where stress, frustration and leg pulling are the norm of the day.

Are we all set to promote positive self esteem in our children?