Ways To Balance The Parenting – Marriage Equation

It was just the other day that my thoughts went to the difficult balancing of this equation, when it struck me that it would help to be thoughtful and smart. It would be futile to neglect one and nurture the other, or to neglect both because you are unable to balance the parenting-marriage equation.

Some positive ways to balance the parenting-marriage equation:

• Remember that the responsibilities of parenting are a joint responsibility and you need to take your spouse into confidence. Sitting down and talking to your spouse and encouraging him to give ideas would help bring about a better parenting-marriage equation. Then your spouse will not only feel connected with the bonding of the children, but this would also remove some of the burden off your head.

• Do not be overwhelmed with balancing of the spouse-children relationship, but be proactive and schedule events, activities and dates with them; add it to your calendar and commit yourself.

• Organize your day, so you have some time alone with both your children and spouse; spend time with your children, but make sure you allot at least some time with your spouse after the children have retired to bed to discuss the day; it could also help to have a chat over your morning tea.

• Spending time with your children all by yourself also helps to balance the parent-marriage equation; ensure you take this opportunity to do something interesting with them or take them to an interesting place they love. Having time with the children ensures the best bonding opportunity; it would be great if both of you did individual activities with them also.

• Quality time with your spouse all by yourselves at least once a week like a movie night after the children have retired to bed helps to nurture your marital relationship. If you can afford it going for a date to a restaurant or just for coffee or a dessert once a month helps.

• Plan and organize family time together with both your spouse as well as your children; it could be an organized activity, event or a day out. Sharing your attention with both your spouse as well as the children would help both of them benefit a lot from this family time together.

• Remember that balancing the parenting-marriage equation also means getting time for yourself doing things your love or pampering yourself would ensure that you also recharge. It could be also getting yourself a massage or some time with your friends; these activities would help your spouse get some time with your children and would also help you to be a better spouse and mother.

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