8 Mistakes Parents Make In Disciplining Children

“No one is perfect”, so are parents; many parents today commit disciplinary mistakes in bringing up their children that makes the relationship between them to be a Lose-Lose relationship instead of a Win-Win relationship.

We need to treat our children as the gift of God, give them love and affection and allow them to flourish; but mental pressure and stress does not allow parents to do and they behave in such a way that they develop a communication gap with their children. It is however best therefore for parents to turn practical and try to avoid mistakes in the disciplining of their children.

Common disciplinary mistakes parents make:

 
1) The first disciplinary mistake that some parents make is to yell and nag; this behavior is projected by parents out of frustration that their children are out of control. I would say that this does not go to disciplining as children as they soon learn to deal with habitual yellers. The next mistake nagging is a corollary to yelling, where parents constantly ask children to do this or that; this would definitely be irritating to the kids and they revolt or neglect parents ultimately.

2) Lecturing and giving advice is the next mistake that parents make; both these actions that have no interaction from the child would only fall on deaf ears and they are in my opinion only just painstaking exercises with no results.

3) Physical punishment and coercion the next mistake, in my opinion are only meant for brutes and not children; both these methods of disciplining only create a rebellious attitude. It would greatly help to try and talk to the child and make him understand the mistake he/she is making and what needs to be done.

4) Parents shame and belittle their children that make them feel inadequate and small; this sort of behavior should be avoided by parents as it affects the self-esteem and self-confidence of children.

5) Every child is unique and has their own positive and negative points; it is futile to compare our children with the children of our neighbors and friends. Children need to take full advantage of their positive attributes.

6) Parents should desist imposing a guilt conscious on their children; children are very sensitive and this behavior of parents could lead to children developing feelings of depression.

7) A child will be only a child; expecting a child to behave as an adult would only overstretch his limits. Give your child his/her own space and the right to take one’s own decisions; this would not only make them happy, but would build a strong bond between you both.

8) Many children have the tendency to follow their parents; so parents need to be role models for instilling good habits in their children. This applies to both habits like smoking and drinking and to the use of foul language.