10 Great Tips To Survive As Single Mother

I have seen various successful single mothers and have always wondered how they fulfill the various obligations required of them; this question of mine was answered when I had the chance to talk to some of them and they shared their secrets.

Tips to survive as a single mother: 

1) Create a chart of your inspiring role models and look at them when you have had a rough day; they could be President Obama, who was raised by his single mom and grandparents, or even ordinary people who lives next door and have been great single mums. These role models are real life confident boosters for single mothers.

 

2) Single mothers find a work schedule that suits the family. It would be best for working mothers to look out for companies that have family-friendly benefits; they should not hesitate to express their needs to the employer and tell him they are a single parent.

3) Surviving as a single parent also means not being obsessive about things you cannot control; this includes the other parent’s attitude towards his/her obligations to their children. They should instead focus on things in their control.  

4) Single mothers definitely deserve the right to kid-free time now and then; they should arrange for a babysitter to go have a beauty treatment or visit a bookshop to buy books or magazines of your interest. if they cannot arrange for a babysitter they can arrange for   childcare swap with a trusted friend.  

5) Single mothers do not have to overexert or stress themselves doing all the chores right in the morning before sending the children to school or daycare; taking a leisurely and calm approach by preparing the breakfast and sending the children to school before doing other chores would take the pressure off them and would also give them quality time with their kids.

6) Single parents could lose their cool as they are fully responsible for their children; it is quite possible that they lose their temper and yell. This is not healthy; it would instead help to walk away and count to 10 or just laugh it off. They would then be better equipped to face it all.

7) Single mothers have the added responsibility to show their children the good qualities of men around them; they could point out uncles that are very good or helpful or grandfathers were great soccer players and showed up at the kid’s soccer practices or games. They could also project their interaction with men; all these created impressions would teach their children about “guy things.”

8) It is always best for a single parent to be prepared while going out with kids; this includes being prepared with crayons, coloring book, snacks and a few matchbox cars in your handbag. This would help prevent a meltdown and also keep the child engaged and entertained during a doctor’s appointment or waiting for dinner.  

9) Single mothers need to congratulate and give themselves a pat for all their achievements; they should feel proud when their child of 2 is  potty trained and a little older child says “excuse me” and “thank you” and learns to share his toys with his friends. Similarly it is time to give a pat when a little older child excels in soccer or quiz by their encouragement.

10) Most importantly single mothers need to cultivate the art of multitasking strategically; as they fold the laundry they should play with racing cars with their son or ask him the color of each garment. Similarly cooking could be combined with training their children to count numbers or recite their favorite rhymes. 

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